Constant Contact Conflict

So at one point yesterday I was like "I might not be able to write consistently on the tennershoes blog! I won't have enough really good, valuable stuff. I mean, I could be like our 5 million view Youtube celebrity I saw in the paper today and just write stuff that is "entertaining" and do youtube videos that are funny...but what real benefit would that have on the person/s reading the blog?


Then I posted this on my fb wall:

I am the farthest from being a facebook troller that you can find, BUT, before I answer a "charged" post or comment on FB, I will take a brief peek at the first few posts on a persons page that made the comment...and if their page is full of "grumpy cat" memes and a daily dialogue of complaining about life and how they stubbed their toe etc. I don't bother commenting ... it is just a lure to get you to join in their misery and usually the equivalent of banging your head against a wall with glass embedded in the bricks. . .really hard and painful to endure. If you find yourself in constant conflict, how long will it take for you to notice that in each conflict there is one constant: YOU. You are the only person that can end the constant conflict by ending your own inner conflicts.

And BOOM! before it was up for more than 30 seconds, I already had people liking it. Maybe it struck a cord, plucked at some heart strings or made a person or two have a look at the "wall of their life" and go "hmmm, there are a lot of grumpy cat memes on my wall of life--like that fight I had with my sister over..wait, I can't even remember because it was such a silly argument".

This is all it takes!  So many are in pain but are looking outside for the problem that they fail to see that in every situation that you experience, the common denominator is YOU.  Nobody can make you sad, mad, upset etc.except YOU.  I found myself angry one time while I was doing a video chat with my little sister.  She thought I sounded funny/not myself and asked if I had taken any substances other than coffee (you get the picture I am sure) and I immediately felt my blood boil.  I had not taken anything and haven't for 6 months as of this very day BUT the anger was there and I got mad.  But it was not really at her... IT WAS AT ME!  Because if I had not been the person that I was for almost twenty years, taking substances that alter my mental state in an attempt to escape from life and mentally and emotionally hurting not only myself but also my family and friends, she would never have asked me that question and I would not have gotten mad...even if she did ask it.

So, when you get mad at someone for accusing asking you about something/some behavior or just making a statement about a subject. . .take a moment and analyse with real honesty and self introspection;  "what might I have done in the past to elicit such a question in the first place and why am I mad/angry now?"

Family and friends worry and stress over us.  All of us.  And getting mad solves nothing.  Drilling into the feelings and not just leaving them buried set you up for a great day every day--instead of a grumpy cat day -- Well, I'm off to grab a coffee before I get on this phone call coming up; Have a better and better day in every way.  And stay off my wall if your name is Tardar Sauce today ok?  ;)

EJM